Why do nice ladies get dumped

 You probably attended a wedding last weekend, and all the time, you kept wondering why this bitchy, unpleasant, unattractive, nasty, choosy, ‘un-nice’ girl got herself a husband – a very handsome and well-to-do one at that! And there you are, a VERY NICE girl.

You still don’t have a serious relationship. Maybe you have one, but you really are not sure where it is headed. In fact, the last guy before this one slept in your house, drank your beer, ate your food and even spent your cash.

Yet he didn't even forewarn you before he vanished into thin air, probably in search of another prey.

(Not only Satan, even some bad guys are roaring like lions seeking whom to devour).
You follow beauty tips to the last letter. You are a one-time MISS UNIVERSITY. You've even subscribed to a fashion and lifestyle magazine where you read ‘10 STEPS TO GET A MAN, 5 BEAUTY TIPS TO MAKE HIM PROPOSE, 8 WAYS TO DRESS TO KNOCK HIM OFF HIS FEET’, blah blah blah.

You have mastered all the ‘man-catching skills’. You've even learnt how to cook Calabar, Ibo and Hausa delicacies, yet you’re one step forward, three steps backwards.

You are really not a bad girl. You seem very perfect. You are always agreeable and sweet. Yet, no one wants to put a ring on your finger. I know what you’re thinking.

You are saying, “You don’t know my story; you don’t know where I come from. My village people, my stepmother, etc. don’t want me to marry. A man of God even said I have a spirit husband.”

Well, I don’t have the power to disagree with you. But let me tell you a story I read somewhere.

One day, a woman was sweeping her sitting room and she found a baby frog beside the couch. Trust some women, she screamed, got help from neighbours, and they killed the poor thing. It didn’t stop there, she set it ablaze and buried the ashes, and then she called her pastor. With a Bible and a bottle of anointing oil in tow, the fiery pastor arrived at the ‘crime scene.’ But before he started blasting in dangerous tongues, he asked to see the back of the living-room window.

Lo and behold, there was a pond there brimming with frogs and toads. He simply checked the mosquito net of the window and there was a whole the size of blackberry phone. This is what he said: “I’m not saying the devil cannot manipulate frogs to attack you, but CHECK the pond and the net first.”

My question then is: what if your so-called ‘spirit husband’ has got himself another ‘wife’? What if now that you’re born-again, old things have indeed passed away? By every standard, you are a nice girl. But what is really wrong with ‘nice’ girls? Don’t get me wrong, there are nice, agreeable, perfect ladies out there who are happily married. Granted, there are no perfect situations in life. Don’t ask me how I know they are happy. Before I go further, let me be frank with you: all the men agreed that ‘nice’ girls are a boring lot.

They (we) all prefer ‘crazy’, interesting ones. We really don’t care whether you won the last MISS WORLD PAGEANT. When you appear too nice and too perfect, in our mind, we have already marked you as ‘hit and run’. We will try and get you to bed, ‘hit’ you and then ‘run’. Now, don’t go looking up the meaning of NICE and CRAZY in your dictionary. That’s not what I’m talking about. I will define a NICE girl and a CRAZY one, for the purpose of this research.

But first, let’s get this clear: I’m not saying if you read these findings here that you will get a man immediately; that Emeka or Lanre who left you last month will come back on bended knees, with a diamond ring begging for forgiveness. BUT if you ever follow these simple and easy guidelines to the last letter, you will get the best out of your relationship.

It will keep you in the driver’s seat and you will control the outcome of your relationship. No man will ever take you for granted any more. He will respect you and dear lady, you will have that man who understands why you need to be in his world, why he needs to treasure you and also see you as an asset; and a prize to keep; the real woman of his dreams!

So, why do we (men) prefer to date and marry seemingly ‘crazy’ girls, while we dump the ‘nice’ ones? Why can’t some ‘good’ or ‘nice’ girls maintain a stable relationship that will lead to the altar, if that’s what they truly want? Why are some ‘nice’ girls always used and dumped? Why can’t they have the man of their dreams? What mistakes are the ‘nice’ ladies making and how should they avoid them? Who is a ‘crazy’ girl?